So, I was talking to my parents and it basically seems like they're going to try to force me to move back home! That's right, Dad's not signing my loan or will he pay my rent when I graduate so that supposedly will leave me optionless. Thus, I will have to move back to my family's home in Virginia and sit on my ass all day. My dad's living in this fairytale where my brother and I will continue living at home forever. No joke. Granted I'm not sure if I really want to go to law school, there's no way I can live under my father's roof ever again. Things are really getting crazy for me. Now more than ever I'm thinking of just packing up and moving to NYC when I graduate this summer. Of course I'd like to do so with a job. I've been looking at positions I could take as an entry level assistant or something of the sort. My dream would be to get into the publishing or fashion industry. I've thought about public relations (hence fashion industry), or working my way up to becoming an editor. I just always think that there are a million gals out there with this exact same idea! I'm worried I'll only get paid like 10 bucks an hour if I am able to land a gig and in New York I'm sure housing is 6x what I'll be able to afford. Any of you New Yorkers out there have any advice or suggestions? The pressure is getting to me because now is the time I have to decide what it is I'm going to do and just how I'm going to get there...
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Oh, it sounds like you're going through quite a difficult time at the moment making hard decisions. I'm sorry to hear that your parents aren't really supporting your dreams for the future - it must make everything even harder. Have you tried talking to them?
I don't know anything about living in NYC so I really hope someone will fill you in on that. It seems that the fashion industry (and publishing) are really hard to get into, but I don't think that you should settle for something "safer" because of that. You just have to work your way towards it... and I'm sure you can get there if you work hard enough and have enough determination. Good luck, sweetie.
Living in nyc I can tell you that it is very expensive here girl, not even just the rent but the cost of living, food, bars, regular stuff...but If you really feel that you wanna move here than by all means I def think you should come, I think that everyone should live in NYC for a while once in their life. I hope that you can come here lovely, it is an experience. I'm sorry about your dad, I know the feeling but it's with my mom...although I havent had a chance to move out..but I will soon...
i'm responding to the comment you left on my blog, and i'm excited that this entry is so appropriate.
how did i make the move to nyc? i just did it. some people say find a job first, or save up a ton of money, or find a ton of roommates. i did none of that. i had no job, some money saved but definitely not a lot, and no roommate. i had heard about a sublet available in astoria, applied, got it, and took it as a sign that it was time to make the move.
i am not saying i did not have a plan, however. i am a teacher in addition to an actress, and i immediately applied to work as a substitute. i applied for all of the paid acting and background work i could. when subbing took too long to come through, i started hocking tickets on the street for davenport theatricals (which has led to a good relationship with the company). i spent my days selling tickets, auditioning, or sending out my headshot and resume to everyone i could think of.
i networked, and tried to meet and connect with as many people as i could. i needed to find a permanent apartment by the end of october (3 months after i had first moved). i knew there was no way i could afford a broker fee or security deposit, so i networked. i started asking everyone i saw if they knew someone who needed a roommate. someone who already had a lease and apartment, all set up. somebody did. that's how i got my beautiful, large, amazingly affordable apartment with great roommates, elevator, and laundry in the newly trendy section of harlem right next to riverbank state park.
i will be honest: lately, money has been hard. i was essentially jobless for two weeks in the beginning of december, and that hit me way harder than expected. however, the clouds have cleared and my earnings are slowly creeping up. i was honestly starting to freak out, but instead of giving up, i pushed through, changed my tactics as to which jobs i was applying for, and now i tutor underprivileged kids for the NYC Board of Ed. i make decent money and my own schedule.
my parents are wonderfully supportive, but at the same time, my mom wishes i would just stay home forever, like your dad wishes for you. it's terribly difficult, because she often guilts me about it, saying how lonely and sad she is. my family live close by in new jersey, but hell would freeze over before my mom chose to come to new york, even if it is to see me. she makes it sound like new york is behind the great wall of china, and it is impossible for her to just drop by for a visit.
as much as i love her, i've learned that when she gets that way, i just have to tune her out. she may think she wants me at home, but does she really want her daughter to be a deadbeat and never move out and survive on her mom's cooking the rest of her life? of course not. i'm lucky that i have my dad to remind me of that. i'm lucky to have a dad that supports this career choice. but i also think my dad just thinks he's lucky that one of his 3 children actually did move out.
new york is hard. no lie. but now is the time. there is no better time to live in new york than when you are young, because you have the stamina to deal with the challenges.
it was so easy for me to move to new york because that's what i wanted, and when i want something, i do it at the first opportunity, and trust that if i work hard enough, everything else will fall into place. so far, it has.
sorry for the super long comment.
Oh, good luck. Family is hard ...but it's free!
of course I'm gonna leave a comment! I like your blog girlie! how you feeling?
I moved home for a summer, worked as much as I could to save money and then made the move. I interviewed once I got there- employers are more responsive when you have a New York address. Not sure what the job situation up there is like now, with the economy the way it is, but it is worth pursuing if you really want to go!
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